Thank you for your comments, As soon as I/we realised it was possible and wanted to start to see if fighters were interested we spoke to him. I Didn't tell him before as we didn't feel the need to have him part of the organisation. I am confident that I can arrange an event (I am not confident to be a ref or a front man), another person who is doing this with me has studied sports event organisation at university. I think he found out speaking to another gym. He doesn't own the gym we train in, its a martial arts gym and he does the BJJ classes. I would have asked the owners of the gym to have the event there, but its too small.

His reason were 1-He was not the first to be informed of the event

Since when should any adult have anything to say on what businesses other adults want to start.

Since when should any adult have anything to say on what businesses other adults want to start.

You didn't need him on the organisation but just by respect, if i was you i did told him since the beginning. If he teach you the art and spend time for you that's not a huge sacrifice to be honest. I know that a lot of people didn't think that way but you have to respect your professor. And he have to respect you as well.

how would someone be able to fix the relationship with you, if they have done what I have. because at the end of the day I don't want anyone pissed off and I want to keep the event going. And id also like some of my team mates to fight at the event. I want to know how to fix things. I don't want to trash anyone.

The way i saw things was like : ' hey coach, i think seriously about making my own event, it can be a good thing for the gym also, a good publicity and maybe à good experience for m'y team mates who gonna compete, what do you think about it, can you give me some advise or helping me to make it happen ?' Just this way, you're coach can be a part or not but that's his own choice and you didn't do it on his back, again this is my point of view. The idea of a forum is to talk, relax and to respect each others, i have the right to think what i think, i respect others members point of view.

I know now, this is what I should have done. But what can I do to fix it now, now that he has said he doesn't support the event, and he doesn't want me to ask his/ our team to fight at the event.

The way i saw things was like : " hey coach, i think seriously about making my own event, it can be a good thing for the gym also, a good publicity and maybe à good experience for m'y team mates who gonna compete, what do you think about it, can you give me some advise or helping me to make it happen ?" Just this way, you're coach can be a part or not but that's his own choice and you didn't do it on his back, again this is my point of view.

Why does he 'owe' his instructor to have the opportunity to be part of his business idea? Unless you're under a non-compete contractual obligation, I don't see why the coach has anything to say in this.

I know now, this is what I should have done. But what can I do to fix it now, now that he has said he doesn't support the event, and he doesn't want me to ask his/ our team to fight at the event.

I know now, this is what I should have done. But what can I do to fix it now, now that he has said he doesn't support the event, and he doesn't want me to ask his/ our team to fight at the event.

I have promoted lot, LOT of competitions and events like this and will be happy to give you some input and feedback if you ever need it.

Since when should any adult have anything to say on what businesses other adults want to start.

Well to stir the pot more. My brother, who has had zero to do with the arranging of this event, went to the gym today. Only to be stopped by our coach, and told that he is very angry with my brother for organising this (which ive said, he isn't) and told him that he will be angry for a very long time and not to come back to the gym. I normally go to class on Tuesdays, following my 4 year old sons class. Ill message my coach in the morning, and I guess ill be at a new gym in the afternoon. Shame really, I havent started this as a money making thing, only to grow the community. Feels like the opposite is happening right now. Thank you to everyone that says that they would help. I think I have most things under control....... which just makes me think of one thing...... What unexpected things did you come across while organising an event?

I guess ill be at a new gym in the afternoon... What unexpected things did you come across while organising an event?

When i read those costumer comment like you paid him for his services that's it...it make me sad, i give all i got to my students i dedicaded my live to this and give them the Best i can, i don't do that for 30€/month if i had the ask a price for what i really do it must be impossible to pay for 85% of them for sure, but i want to give the opportunity to anybody to train, even if they had financial problems. Each case is different and America's still America so my argument gonna sound weird for People who think in the capitalisme prisma but somewhere in the world, old way of training still exist in dojos where respect is more important than money.

However, you have to realize that your heart and soul was not what your student signed up for when they signed up for bjj class. They signed up to train bjj, and they didn't sign up for your heart and soul