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How do you balance training with a newborn?
4 year(s) ago • 1373 views • 13 replies
BSBlack belt 1st degreeVerified
4 year(s) ago
My wife and I welcomed our first child a week ago and I'm taking some time off from training and work. My question for the parents out there is- how do you balance training and being a parent? The classes I normally attend/teach are early in the morning so in terms of schedule I don't think there will be an impact but I don't want to put too much burden on my wife (and especially now with COVID i'm not sure i'll be too comfortable training until my child can get their vaccine dosage).
MPPurple beltVerified
4 year(s) ago
Just look at what the minimal amount of training you need to improve. Life will get in the way. I went 7 weeks without training and had to do a course for the military where they assess your fitness at the start and I was surprised at how much I retained. Dot worry too much and enjoy being a father. As for vaccine dosage and C-19. Kids are been shown to be very resilient to it. I work in a medical facility and my wife and I are only dosed up my kids are not due to being quite young. I hope this helps and congrats.
JJBlack beltVerified
4 year(s) ago
My wife and I welcomed our first child a week ago and I'm taking some time off from training and work. My question for the parents out there is- how do you balance training and being a parent? The classes I normally attend/teach are early in the morning so in terms of schedule I don't think there will be an impact but I don't want to put too much burden on my wife (and especially now with COVID i'm not sure i'll be too comfortable training until my child can get their vaccine dosage).
Kids recover faster than anyone else.
My son is just over 4 months old and has already been to 5 tournaments and 20+ practices with me.
He has not been sick once but has been exposed to literally thousands of people even when covid is going around the community. Their immunity system is cranked up x100
He went to his first tournament at 1 month and 1 week old. He was fine. I mean he also looked at me at the moment he came out of his mother like "what do you want? Didn't even cry.
There is no reason to give a healthy child shots that are not required and been studied for a lengthy period of time. They will get plenty of shots already as is. I am not some anti-shot person. My son has had all his normal required shots for his age so far and some that are not required.
I don't want to get off on the covid nonsense but quit living in fear. Virus's mutate to become more contagious and less dangerous over time. Anyone that knew any basic info about virus's 2 years ago already knew this but was ignored. And that's exactly what has happened. It's going to be like the flu. Contagious with very minimum damage caused in young and healthy individuals. In the end there is probably a 50/50 chance that at least 1 of the shots being give out will do more harm than good. The body is amazing at protecting itself. Let it do it's job unless someone has some rare disease to where their body isn't functioning properly.
I was careful the first 2 weeks then relaxed. If he's healthy after 2 or 3 weeks he's going to be fine. I'd be more worried about how your going to get any sleep and space on the mattress.
My son is just over 4 months old and has already been to 5 tournaments and 20+ practices with me.
He has not been sick once but has been exposed to literally thousands of people even when covid is going around the community. Their immunity system is cranked up x100
He went to his first tournament at 1 month and 1 week old. He was fine. I mean he also looked at me at the moment he came out of his mother like "what do you want? Didn't even cry.
There is no reason to give a healthy child shots that are not required and been studied for a lengthy period of time. They will get plenty of shots already as is. I am not some anti-shot person. My son has had all his normal required shots for his age so far and some that are not required.
I don't want to get off on the covid nonsense but quit living in fear. Virus's mutate to become more contagious and less dangerous over time. Anyone that knew any basic info about virus's 2 years ago already knew this but was ignored. And that's exactly what has happened. It's going to be like the flu. Contagious with very minimum damage caused in young and healthy individuals. In the end there is probably a 50/50 chance that at least 1 of the shots being give out will do more harm than good. The body is amazing at protecting itself. Let it do it's job unless someone has some rare disease to where their body isn't functioning properly.
I was careful the first 2 weeks then relaxed. If he's healthy after 2 or 3 weeks he's going to be fine. I'd be more worried about how your going to get any sleep and space on the mattress.
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BSBen ShawOP
Black belt 1st degreeVerified
4 year(s) ago
Kids recover faster than anyone else. My son is just over 4 months old and has already been to 5 tournaments and 20+ practices with me. He has not been sick once but has been exposed to literally thousands of people even when covid is going around the community. Their immunity system is cranked up x100 He went to his first tournament at 1 month and 1 week old. He was fine. I mean he also looked at me at the moment he came out of his mother like 'what do you want? Didn't even cry. There is no reason to give a healthy child shots that are not required and been studied for a lengthy period of time. They will get plenty of shots already as is. I am not some anti-shot person. My son has had all his normal required shots for his age so far and some that are not required. I don't want to get off on the covid nonsense but quit living in fear. Virus's mutate to become more contagious and less dangerous over time. Anyone that knew any basic info about virus's 2 years ago already knew this but was ignored. And that's exactly what has happened. It's going to be like the flu. Contagious with very minimum damage caused in young and healthy individuals. In the end there is probably a 50/50 chance that at least 1 of the shots being give out will do more harm than good. The body is amazing at protecting itself. Let it do it's job unless someone has some rare disease to where their body isn't functioning properly. I was careful the first 2 weeks then relaxed. If he's healthy after 2 or 3 weeks he's going to be fine. I'd be more worried about how your going to get any sleep and space on the mattress.
I'd say it's hard to "quit living in fear" when I know of several people who have died from it and it hit me pretty hard as well despite being vaccinated. Prior to the birth I've been extremely limiting my training to minimize contact. So far my plan has been to take the baby with me to the classes I teach just so I don't feel guilty about saddling my wife with solo parenting duties but that's still about a month out from now. I guess the "good" thing about teaching a 6:30 am class is that the class size is inherently small.
PKPurple beltVerified
4 year(s) ago
Kids recover faster than anyone else. My son is just over 4 months old and has already been to 5 tournaments and 20+ practices with me. He has not been sick once but has been exposed to literally thousands of people even when covid is going around the community. Their immunity system is cranked up x100 [...] There is no reason to give a healthy child shots that are not required and been studied for a lengthy period of time. They will get plenty of shots already as is.I don't want to get off on the covid nonsense but quit living in fear. Virus's mutate to become more contagious and less dangerous over time. Anyone that knew any basic info about virus's 2 years ago already knew this but was ignored. And thwhat's exactly at has happened
You mix up several thingsthat are simply not right: Mutation, the kids immune system at month 4, the study of the vaccine or "basic information" on viruses.
In fact, the virus with all his meanwhile discovered risks is still a threat for people, kids, adults and seniors. It may show now not to be as deadly on impact as it was two years ago, but still able to seriously harm your organs and nervous system.
BTT:
I mean it's 2 questions isn't it: Geting your jiu-jitsu-time and infectious diseases.
I got two twin daughters at age 2. In the first 6-9 months it was no big problem to sort out jiu jitsu and family, since the kids slept anyway whenever they could and I could take my time with them and jiu-jitsu easily. With having a stable sleep-rhythm, my more-less-fixed working times and their needs (and my appreciation for the time with them) me and my wife arranged a evening off of week for me (usually wednesday for BJJ in the afternoon) and her (whatever she does). The other days I go to the evening classes (we dinner together, we do the night-preps and they go to sleep at 7pm and I start bjj at 8.30pm). Everyone of us has time for himself and we got some family time, too. It's not "I can train whenever I can" anymore, but I still get to practise 3 times a week, while having dad-time, couple time and chasing my job/career somehow.
Unfortunately I don't get to go to open mats on weekends now, which is always enjoyed heavily, since weekends is 90% is family time.
There are some early-kid-judo classes for kids from 3 here (which is mostly jumping around, pushing, getting a feeling for movements I'd say) and iam already super excited to train Judo with them (or secretly do some jits).
For covid reasons I do not see my training as a primary source for the infection...they go to the kindergarden and unfortunately noone gives a shit anymore. If yo uhave 100 kids, with their parents, their social networks...you cannot control it anymore. If they (or me or my wife) get infected, we have to deal with it, we cannot prevent it anymore since people dont give a shit about masks or infections here anymore.
In fact, the virus with all his meanwhile discovered risks is still a threat for people, kids, adults and seniors. It may show now not to be as deadly on impact as it was two years ago, but still able to seriously harm your organs and nervous system.
BTT:
I mean it's 2 questions isn't it: Geting your jiu-jitsu-time and infectious diseases.
I got two twin daughters at age 2. In the first 6-9 months it was no big problem to sort out jiu jitsu and family, since the kids slept anyway whenever they could and I could take my time with them and jiu-jitsu easily. With having a stable sleep-rhythm, my more-less-fixed working times and their needs (and my appreciation for the time with them) me and my wife arranged a evening off of week for me (usually wednesday for BJJ in the afternoon) and her (whatever she does). The other days I go to the evening classes (we dinner together, we do the night-preps and they go to sleep at 7pm and I start bjj at 8.30pm). Everyone of us has time for himself and we got some family time, too. It's not "I can train whenever I can" anymore, but I still get to practise 3 times a week, while having dad-time, couple time and chasing my job/career somehow.
Unfortunately I don't get to go to open mats on weekends now, which is always enjoyed heavily, since weekends is 90% is family time.
There are some early-kid-judo classes for kids from 3 here (which is mostly jumping around, pushing, getting a feeling for movements I'd say) and iam already super excited to train Judo with them (or secretly do some jits).
For covid reasons I do not see my training as a primary source for the infection...they go to the kindergarden and unfortunately noone gives a shit anymore. If yo uhave 100 kids, with their parents, their social networks...you cannot control it anymore. If they (or me or my wife) get infected, we have to deal with it, we cannot prevent it anymore since people dont give a shit about masks or infections here anymore.
Edited 4 year(s) ago
NTBlack belt 1st degreeVerified
4 year(s) ago
In regards to kids and training: I don’t teach and admit that obligation is not something I can speak to. I imagine it’s a different challenge if someone relies on teaching for income. As for my personal training, I took time off with both my kids when they were newborns mostly because both my wife and I were exhausted and during the first couple of months I saw that my wife and my kids needed me to be around as much as I could to support them.
As for being a new parent trying to train in an age of COVID:
Everyone needs to perform their own personal risk assessment. That assessment likely becomes more complicated when you have immunosuppressed/developing immune systems. As a physician I have worked with and seen many people die from COVID. Currently the majority of people hospitalized with COVID seem to still be unvaccinated people with chronic conditions. Children in general do well with the virus, but there have been deaths in that population as well. I loss a family member to COVID too so I’ve felt this on a personal level too. This is a different stage of the pandemic we’re in where we have decent vaccines, therapeutics, and fewer people dying. However, my personal calculus remains such that if I had a newborn, I wouldn’t want to take the risk for a few months
As for being a new parent trying to train in an age of COVID:
Everyone needs to perform their own personal risk assessment. That assessment likely becomes more complicated when you have immunosuppressed/developing immune systems. As a physician I have worked with and seen many people die from COVID. Currently the majority of people hospitalized with COVID seem to still be unvaccinated people with chronic conditions. Children in general do well with the virus, but there have been deaths in that population as well. I loss a family member to COVID too so I’ve felt this on a personal level too. This is a different stage of the pandemic we’re in where we have decent vaccines, therapeutics, and fewer people dying. However, my personal calculus remains such that if I had a newborn, I wouldn’t want to take the risk for a few months
NTBlack belt 1st degreeVerified
4 year(s) ago
In regards to kids and training: I don’t teach and admit that obligation is not something I can speak to. I imagine it’s a different challenge if someone relies on teaching for income. As for my personal training, I took time off with both my kids when they were newborns mostly because both my wife and I were exhausted and during the first couple of months I saw that my wife and my kids needed me to be around as much as I could to support them.
As for being a new parent trying to train in an age of COVID:
Everyone needs to perform their own personal risk assessment. That assessment likely becomes more complicated when you have immunosuppressed/developing immune systems. As a physician I have worked with and seen many people die from COVID. Currently the majority of people hospitalized with COVID seem to still be unvaccinated people with chronic conditions. Children in general do well with the virus, but there have been deaths in that population as well. I loss a family member to COVID too so I’ve felt this on a personal level too. This is a different stage of the pandemic we’re in where we have decent vaccines, therapeutics, and fewer people dying. However, my personal calculus remains such that if I had a newborn, I wouldn’t want to take the risk for a few months
As for being a new parent trying to train in an age of COVID:
Everyone needs to perform their own personal risk assessment. That assessment likely becomes more complicated when you have immunosuppressed/developing immune systems. As a physician I have worked with and seen many people die from COVID. Currently the majority of people hospitalized with COVID seem to still be unvaccinated people with chronic conditions. Children in general do well with the virus, but there have been deaths in that population as well. I loss a family member to COVID too so I’ve felt this on a personal level too. This is a different stage of the pandemic we’re in where we have decent vaccines, therapeutics, and fewer people dying. However, my personal calculus remains such that if I had a newborn, I wouldn’t want to take the risk for a few months
BSBen ShawOP
Black belt 1st degreeVerified
4 year(s) ago
In regards to kids and training: I don’t teach and admit that obligation is not something I can speak to. I imagine it’s a different challenge if someone relies on teaching for income. As for my personal training, I took time off with both my kids when they were newborns mostly because both my wife and I were exhausted and during the first couple of months I saw that my wife and my kids needed me to be around as much as I could to support them. As for being a new parent trying to train in an age of COVID: Everyone needs to perform their own personal risk assessment. That assessment likely becomes more complicated when you have immunosuppressed/developing immune systems. As a physician I have worked with and seen many people die from COVID. Currently the majority of people hospitalized with COVID seem to still be unvaccinated people with chronic conditions. Children in general do well with the virus, but there have been deaths in that population as well. I loss a family member to COVID too so I’ve felt this on a personal level too. This is a different stage of the pandemic we’re in where we have decent vaccines, therapeutics, and fewer people dying. However, my personal calculus remains such that if I had a newborn, I wouldn’t want to take the risk for a few months
for what it's worth teaching isn't a source of income for me. It's just something I voluntarily do at my school (i have a "boring" day job as an accountant). I'm counting down the days to when my baby hits 6 months and can get her first dose of vaccine. In my experience I've been ok in terms of not picking up covid again after my first bout and getting boosted (I know i've been exposed to at least 1 person with an active symptomatic infection and i didn't catch it) but anecdotal evidence =/= scientifically valid data.
SBBlack belt 1st degreeVerified
4 year(s) ago
I've got 4 grown well adjusted kids and the only real advice I can give you is that they grow up fast and you should wear your declining BJJ skills as a badge of honor. Things will get back to some sort of schedule in a year or do. Look on the bright side, the skills will come back in no time and your nagging injuries will go away.
Early morning jiu jitsu is a lifesaver when the kid gets a few years older. You get your rolls in while the family sleeps.
Actually, one more bit of advice, don't listen to anyone other than your pediatrician mixed with your instincts about COVID. It's way too new an issue for an "it takes a village" approach. And remember, every village has its village idiot.
Early morning jiu jitsu is a lifesaver when the kid gets a few years older. You get your rolls in while the family sleeps.
Actually, one more bit of advice, don't listen to anyone other than your pediatrician mixed with your instincts about COVID. It's way too new an issue for an "it takes a village" approach. And remember, every village has its village idiot.
CBBrown beltVerified
4 year(s) ago
Actually, one more bit of advice, don't listen to anyone other than your pediatrician mixed with your instincts about COVID. It's way too new an issue for an "it takes a village" approach. And remember, every village has its village idiot.
This can't be said enough.
If I can give one more point here, don't listen to the village at all. Covid isn't only too new for that. It's too specialized. Even after 20 years, the village isn't going to know as much as someone whose spent their life studying this.
We see the difference between untrained and trained people in Jiu-Jitsu everyday. Trust me, the difference is more expansive in medicine.
If I can give one more point here, don't listen to the village at all. Covid isn't only too new for that. It's too specialized. Even after 20 years, the village isn't going to know as much as someone whose spent their life studying this.
We see the difference between untrained and trained people in Jiu-Jitsu everyday. Trust me, the difference is more expansive in medicine.
BZBlack belt 4th degreeVerified
4 year(s) ago
I have two boys the first one is now 2years 8month and the second one 9month old, and i teach 4x per week, so i can told you that the plan to bring your baby with you at teaching is okay for a short period, because now he's suppose to sleep a lot, so maybe he will stay quiet for your lesson, but when he will grow, like mine....he wake up and need attention, so it's pretty hard to do both things in the same time.
JMBlack belt 2nd degreeVerified
4 year(s) ago
I wouldn't recommend training with a newborn at all - they're still too much on the fragile side and due to weight discrepancy the skills you learn don't have good carryover into sparring other adults even though it might feel good to have the upper hand all the time.
MMBlue beltVerified
4 year(s) ago
I wouldn't recommend training with a newborn at all - they're still too much on the fragile side and due to weight discrepancy the skills you learn don't have good carryover into sparring other adults even though it might feel good to have the upper hand all the time.
Beat me to this sort of response
BSBen ShawOP
Black belt 1st degreeVerified
4 year(s) ago
I wouldn't recommend training with a newborn at all - they're still too much on the fragile side and due to weight discrepancy the skills you learn don't have good carryover into sparring other adults even though it might feel good to have the upper hand all the time.
how else will she become a bjj black belt world champ by 19?
