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My wife, my first training partner passed away
5 year(s) ago • 6298 views • 49 replies
Purple beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
My wife, Paula passed away on April 16, 2021. She lost her life to cancer at 43 years of age. She was my first training partner. We practiced Gracie University combatives together for quite some time. She used to apply a little extra on her triangles. During our drilling, Paula when performing the traditional closed guard triangle, would get the partner's (me) arm across her lap and dig the boney prominence of her elbow into my arm. I would ask her, bewildered, "why are you doing that"? She just smiled and said; It is Jiu-jitsu!
We lived in a rural area and local Jiu-jitsu was undesirable. She was not really into Jiu-jitsu so much as she was very much into me.
Paula would humor me to go on trips, vacations that had a GJJ or affiliated training center nearby. Of course, her eyes would roll, but she expected this from me. My wife Paula. My first, best, most supportive, and dedicated training partner.
Rest in Peace, my darling
We lived in a rural area and local Jiu-jitsu was undesirable. She was not really into Jiu-jitsu so much as she was very much into me.
Paula would humor me to go on trips, vacations that had a GJJ or affiliated training center nearby. Of course, her eyes would roll, but she expected this from me. My wife Paula. My first, best, most supportive, and dedicated training partner.
Rest in Peace, my darling
Purple beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
Damn. Sorry to hear this, may she rest in peace.
Black belt 3rd degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
My wife, Paula passed away on April 16, 2021. She lost her life to cancer at 43 years of age. She was my first training partner. We practiced Gracie University combatives together for quite some time. She used to apply a little extra on her triangles. During our drilling, Paula when performing the traditional closed guard triangle, would get the partner's (me) arm across her lap and dig the boney prominence of her elbow into my arm. I would ask her, bewildered, 'why are you doing that'? She just smiled and said; It is Jiu-jitsu! We lived in a rural area and local Jiu-jitsu was undesirable. She was not really into Jiu-jitsu so much as she was very much into me. Paula would humor me to go on trips, vacations that had a GJJ or affiliated training center nearby. Of course, her eyes would roll, but she expected this from me. My wife Paula. My first, best, most supportive, and dedicated training partner. Rest in Peace, my darling
My deepest condolences on your loss
Black belt 2nd degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
My condolences, I lost my father earlier this year and i know how much that can take a toll on your mental. Just know that she is happy for the time that she shared with you and that she is still up there looking down on you laughing at you do stupid stuff while you train.. Just remember the good times that you had and that will carry you though the long days... thats what helped me
Black belt 2nd degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
My deepest condolences.
I can't imagine what it's like. But I read your post and it made me cry a bit for you, your wife and the fragile tragedy that is called being human.
She will forever be in your heart.
I can't imagine what it's like. But I read your post and it made me cry a bit for you, your wife and the fragile tragedy that is called being human.
She will forever be in your heart.
Blue beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
Too young. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Brown beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
Condolences buddy.
Black beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
Sorry Brian. RIP Paula.
Black belt 1st degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
So sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your family
Black beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
My thoughts are with you. So sorry to hear about your wife's passing, Sounds like you two shared a spectacular common interest.
Black belt 2nd degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
Omg. I am so so sorry for your loss. Love and hugs to you.
Black belt 3rd degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Cancer is an awful thing and tales way to many at young ages. You were very fortunate to have her and your story of training with her was heartwarming.. Keep your head up and you both are in my prayers
Black beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
I am so sorry for your loss.
Black belt 4th degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
My wife, Paula passed away on April 16, 2021. She lost her life to cancer at 43 years of age. She was my first training partner. We practiced Gracie University combatives together for quite some time. She used to apply a little extra on her triangles. During our drilling, Paula when performing the traditional closed guard triangle, would get the partner's (me) arm across her lap and dig the boney prominence of her elbow into my arm. I would ask her, bewildered, 'why are you doing that'? She just smiled and said; It is Jiu-jitsu! We lived in a rural area and local Jiu-jitsu was undesirable. She was not really into Jiu-jitsu so much as she was very much into me. Paula would humor me to go on trips, vacations that had a GJJ or affiliated training center nearby. Of course, her eyes would roll, but she expected this from me. My wife Paula. My first, best, most supportive, and dedicated training partner. Rest in Peace, my darling
Our deepest condolences to you and your family on your tremendous loss.
Black belt 1st degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
We don’t know each other Brian, but I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Please don’t attempt to go thru this alone.
If you need connections to resources, or if all you can manage to do is to post, reach out.
Please don’t attempt to go thru this alone.
If you need connections to resources, or if all you can manage to do is to post, reach out.
Black beltVerifiedTaiwan
5 year(s) ago
My deepest condolences.
Black belt 2nd degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
Condolences Buddy
Black beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
deepest condolences to you and your family
Black belt 2nd degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
My condolences to you and your family.
Black belt 3rd degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
Words fail. But my condoleances. What a tragedy.
Brown beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
Heartbreaking... really sad. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Purple beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
Thank you all. When I posted about my darling, I was/ am feeling...less than, without. However, all of you are wonderful! I'm never going to say the right thing. Thank you.
Black beltVerified
5 year(s) ago
I'm so sorry to hear that! I csn only imagine how hard that must be. Stay strong. You WILL make it through this!
Black belt 1st degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Your story is heartbreaking. My condolences to you and your loved ones.
Black belt 2nd degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
Sorry for your loss.
Black belt 1st degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
My condolences.
Black belt 1st degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
My condolences, sir. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Black belt 1st degreeVerifiedCyprus
5 year(s) ago
So, so sorry. I hope you can continue to remember the happy times.
Black belt 4th degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
My deepest and sincerest apologies for your loss! You will be in my prayers!
Black belt 1st degreeVerified
5 year(s) ago
My wife, Paula passed away on April 16, 2021. She lost her life to cancer at 43 years of age. She was my first training partner. We practiced Gracie University combatives together for quite some time. She used to apply a little extra on her triangles. During our drilling, Paula when performing the traditional closed guard triangle, would get the partner's (me) arm across her lap and dig the boney prominence of her elbow into my arm. I would ask her, bewildered, 'why are you doing that'? She just smiled and said; It is Jiu-jitsu! We lived in a rural area and local Jiu-jitsu was undesirable. She was not really into Jiu-jitsu so much as she was very much into me. Paula would humor me to go on trips, vacations that had a GJJ or affiliated training center nearby. Of course, her eyes would roll, but she expected this from me. My wife Paula. My first, best, most supportive, and dedicated training partner. Rest in Peace, my darling
My first wife, Jan, died of cancer in April of 2007.
Your post reminded me very much of that time and the special relationship her and I also shared.
Brian, How are you doing NOW?
Feel free to reach out and private message me any time!
Your post reminded me very much of that time and the special relationship her and I also shared.
Brian, How are you doing NOW?
Feel free to reach out and private message me any time!


